Strategy7 Master conflict-deal with anger in small doses, engage
dissidents, and avoid needless power struggle.
In Wednesday’s class, our group talked about what
attitude/reaction we have toward conflict in a group. Many of group member
includes myself said that we tend to use conflict negative group way in
thinking and attitude. Personally, I tend to being afraid of facing conflict
which might affect personal relationship with others. However, one of group
members, Maya shared good experience of facing conflict in club activity. She
said she uses positive group way of dealing conflict with others, and trys to
conduct great outcomes out of conflict. As well as Shackleton’s chapter of
conflict, her story made me realize how great outcomes conflict can provide us.
We all have a time with negative feelings in lives, so it is
impossible to eliminate negative feelings out of our lives. However, what is
important is that “…hurt feelings needed immediate attention to prevent anger
or settlement from building” (108) Shackleton said. As a great leader,
Shackleton was careful to see crew’s attitude and psychological condition for
their sake as well as whole tam’s. There are several reasons why negative
feelings need to be dealt with directly and small scale situation. I was
impressed to find out one of the reasons is that “…conflict not expressed means
that problems are not being confronted”.(104) It shows that avoiding conflicts
might leads failure of realizing issues among topic we are facing. It was also
interesting to see Moose metaphor in the chapter. I don’t have any experience
usoing such a characteristic way to solve/apply taboo topic. Although, using
visible metaphor can be effective to create open environment and common sense/understanding, so that
people may start to feel comfortable talking about it. I
wonder if there is any Japanese leader/organization using visible vivid
metaphor to create an environment which encourages people to face conflict and
to make most of it from conflict.
Hi Moe,
返信削除Thanks for these two thoughtful posts. I think you are very right that maintaining the balance between being the leader and equality is very difficult, and I appreciate that you seemed to have been able to talk to your mother about this and hear about her challenges.